thereisnowhy:

i’m not going to rain on your parade. i understand you believe in marriage and deserve the right to do so.

but

i find this whole idea kind of backward (hospital visits and insurance issues aside). why are we fighting to get married? marriage is such an archaic social institution with all the wrong historical associations to property and ownership and harems and status. personally, i much prefer the word “partner” to “husband.”  it has a more “equal” connotation.

it just seems like we’re fighting to bring back corsets or dowry or mercantilism. maybe i’m jaded because i watched so many marriages fail in my immediate family, but when i spend the rest of my life with someone it will be because i make a commitment everyday… not because i followed a religious ceremony or my country voted on it or i signed a legal contract.

i’m not really excited at the prospect of watering down my love into a cheapened, official, legal before man and god “marriage.” i see this as an opportunity for us to have a relationship status that is, dare i say it, BETTER THAN MARRIAGE.